Loving Yourself Thin with Vivation
How You Can End Emotional Eating and "Lighten
Up" using Vivation
by Patricia Bacall
Dorothy first came to my healing practice
as an incest survivor, sixty pounds overweight, and
desperate for a solution to her weight problem.
She had tried almost every diet and weight loss method
available, was contemplating bypass surgery to control her
eating and bring her borderline diabetes under control. She
was also suffering from back, hip and knee pain.
Dorothy knew she was a compulsive overeater, and "used" food
to keep painful memories and uncomfortable feelings
I taught Dorothy how to do the skill of Vivation using the
Three Points to Remember. This lesson number one allows even
a beginner to Vivation to have a complete and satisfying
experience of emotional resolution. When I asked Dorothy to
breathe into her belly during our session, she started to
experience more intense feelings. She became aware of fears
and anxiety and noticed her tendency to want to eat when
those feelings surfaced. As Dorothy put it, "Food and eating
were my way of coping with those memories which I didn't
know how to deal with. Eating was a way of keeping my
feelings stuffed down."
Many people become overeaters as a way of managing feelings
that seem overwhelming. It was apparent to both of us that
Dorothy didn't need bypass surgery or another diet, she
needed emotional rescue.
As we continued our sessions, Dorothy made great advances in
healing the underlying cause of her overeating, lost 28
lbs., and is continuing her healing journey. In my
professional work as a weight loss coach and healer, I see
people transform using the power of their breath to
integrate emotional negativity, living fuller and happier
lives as a result of casting off years of internal turmoil
Because full and free breathing causes one to feel one's
feelings more intensely, many people unconsciously control
their breath and become habitual shallow breathers.
The importance of breath is well known in many healing
traditions, which consider its disruption to be the first
sign of "dis-ease" or disordered energy in the body.
Breath is the essence of life. If we are shallow breathers,
we limit our life force and our experience of vibrant good
health and enthusiasm.
Breathing becomes limited when we are traumatized or
fearful. Shallow breathing requires holding and tightening
the muscles involved in breathing. When this holding becomes
chronic, the flow of energy is limited and emotional
negativity gets "stuck" within the body.
This holding will also, over time, build layers of
protective armor that decreases feeling and sensation.
Although this armor protects us from the external "slings
and arrows" getting in and harming us, it also limits our
enjoyment of life, self-expression and ability to respond to
those around us in sensitive and compassionate ways.
Healing internal trauma and negativity using the breath
allows us to let go of unhealthy ways of dealing with our
pain, including overeating, and not taking care of our
bodies. By learning to relax in the presence of
uncomfortable emotions, we can heal the internal turmoil,
and cease using food as an all-purpose solution to decrease
You can use Vivation to "lighten up" about your feelings and
emotions the next time you feel that you are overeating for
To try this, lie down comfortably on your back, with feet
hip distance apart, knees bent or legs straight, whatever is
most comfortable for you. Allow yourself to sink down into
the surface, relaxing your chest and belly, throat, spine,
Use your inner awareness to begin to soften and relax every
area of tension and holding, leaving you to notice only the
areas which will not readily relax.
Breathing in and out through the mouth, allow the breath to
follow this path through the body – belly – back –
breastbone. Then let go on the exhale, allowing the
breath to flow out of your body in a completely relaxed
way…not controlled at all. Continue to repeat and
perform the breathing as you say to yourself "belly - back -
breastbone…and let go." Relax the exhale and all of your
muscles as you say "…and let go."
Allow your entire torso to expand with the breath. Think of
the graceful movement of seaweed being moved by waves as you
feel the pleasurable sensations of energy flow through the
body. While doing this, continue to relax your mind and all
the muscles in your body.
Just let your awareness dwell on the feelings, sensations
and patterns of energy flowing in the body, and be open to
everything. If the feelings and emotions get too intense,
make the breathing shallower. To feel the feelings more
breathe faster or fuller or both.
Keep letting all of the feelings flow, and keep breathing
and relaxing for at least 20 minutes. This exercise will
calm and energize you and train you to relax in the presence
of your most intense and activating emotions. It is the
attempt to avoid these highly charged emotions that causes
you to overeat or eat when you are not hungry.
Learning to relax in the presence of intense feelings is a
very valuable and useful skill that will come in handy in
many areas of your life. Practice for a few minutes in bed
to sleep more deeply or sitting up before walking into a
presentation and see
how calm and focused you will be.
Patricia Bacall, Vivation Professional,
has a consulting practice in Los Angeles, and is an
internationally acknowledged expert in the area of emotional
resolution related to weight loss. For more information,
visit www.vivationusa.com or write to her
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